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Why You Should Throw Your Goals, Resolutions and Best Intentions Out the Window!

Something Different

Over the past few days hundreds, thousands, and perhaps, millions of blog posts have been published about goal-setting, clarifying intentions, and launching one’s self whole-hearted into the new year.

Not this one!

I’m urging you to toss all the crap out the window of your life’s speeding automobile.  You don’t have time for navel-gazing, honestly.  Let the people who are planning to live make their plans.

Meanwhile, you get on with it!

Over the coming year, I’ll be talking about four broad topics: Gratitude, Love, Stillness and Presence.  All of it will be centered around the main law I like to call the Law of Everything.

The Law of Everything states that the external reflects the internal.

Or, if you prefer…

You cannot travel within and stand still without – James Allen

The universe is change; our life is what our thoughts make it. – Marcus Aurelius

Change your thoughts and you change your world – Norman Vincent Peale

Scrap Your Goals/Intentions/Resolutions

You should scrap all your best intentions and deepest wishes. Because, they don’t really matter.

If your thoughts are out of order, no amount of focusing on the external will change that. But most of us will try anyway.  Even if we know that it will do no good, we set goals, make our 1/5/10 year plans, and incant our favorite affirmations.

PHEWY!

You gotta buck up, son (or daughter)!  Time to be real with yourself.  If you didn’t reach your goals last year, doing the same thing and expecting it to be different is…well, you know…cuckoo, cuckoo, cuckoo!

But Everybody’s Doing It

And by January 31 (or sooner), all the day planners will be tossed aside, the budgets will be blown, and the gyms will be empty again.

If you want to affect real change in your life, here are some tips.

1. Focus
Get clear about what you want and why. (Hint: best way to find this is by becoming still) Fight every urge to “get busy.” You’ll become distracted with the external and neglect the internal, where the true motivation lies.

2. Discipline Yourself
It takes true courage and self-discipline to sit quietly and change the makeup of your mind and behaviors. Do it anyway.

3. Take Action
Only after you have focused your attention as much as you possibly can and have disciplined your mind and adopted new beliefs and ways of thinking, can you hope to take action with true resolve.

You’ll know you’ve come to this point when you have absolute clarity and the action flows almost effortlessly from deep conviction from within.

Then you may find that you don’t even need all the day planners, goal-setting tricks and other mechanics to do the work you were meant to.

The Secret of It All

That’s the secret of it all, you see.  It’s not about setting goals, making resolutions and setting good intentions.

Creating change is about connecting with who you really are in order to do what you alone were meant to do!

So dare to make a change this year.  Instead of doing what everyone else is doing, dare to run counter-current.  Dare to find yourself–your true self.  And dare to do the work that you were meant to do.

That’s the secret sauce, folks. I could close up and go home now (but I won’t cuz most of you didn’t get it, and those of you who did will need periodic reminders).

So we’ll be here on this road together into a fantastic 2012.  We’re gonna make this baby scream “Uncle!” before we’re done!

About Steve

Hi, I'm Steve Rice and my goal is to transform simple philosophical truths into practical fuel to revolutionize your life. It's not about self-help, it's about self-reliance. I show you how. Connect with me on Facebook or follow me on Twitter and let me know how I can help you.

  • Nice post Steve!

    I already made my wish list and resolutions before the start of this year- but they are small things to do and accomplish- which I intend doing by taking baby steps. I don’t aim for the stars nor try things that I know will not work for me, instead if you check my resolutions- they do aim at my own personal development more than anything else.

    But I like your reminder about not really focusing on your goals and resolutions- instead introspect more on your inner-self, which would make the outer much better on its own.

    Happy new year to you as well 🙂

    • Steve

      Thank, Harleena. You got the main point I was trying to make 🙂 It’s all about what works for you.

      It is interesting how quickly we get distracted with all the things that we are told we should be doing (like setting goals, creating resolutions, and setting intentions) when the true magic is created from what’s going on inside!

  • Phew . . . I feel relief in reading your post.. I never get into New Year Resolutions or goal setting. Life is too fluid to me for that. Opportunities seem to flow. I really think it matters on how your mind works and how structured you need to be in life.

    Love the new blog!

    • Steve

      First off, Happy New Year and I hope you had a great Christmas!

      I think you’re right, Sherrie…Some people need goals, resolutions, etc. (I actually do set them). I guess I was trying to use hyperbole to make the point that it doesn’t matter what tips, techniques or mechanisms we use to try to manipulate our lives, if we don’t rightly-align our thoughts, it’s pointless.

  • Hey Steve,

    Great post man! I also am loving the newness that’s taking place here man… I had no idea! It looks great! Love the quotes that are able to be tweeted. Loving the name of the blog, as well. 🙂 Great Job, buddy!

    I don’t really get into the Resolution setting thing, myself. In the past, whenever I made my list I would have forgotten about it by the end of the month. That only usually left me beating myself up or feeling bad about it later; much like you described here in this post.

    What I’ve learned over time is that we self-sabotage ourselves each time we do this. We form all of these unreachable goals for New Year’s, with equally unreachable time frames, and then beat ourselves up when we don’t reach them. It’s like taking off a belt every single year and whooping ourselves with it. It just doesn’t make much sense to me, you know? 🙂

    Awesome post, Steve! I enjoyed the read, man. 🙂

  • Wow, I love this quote: “Creating change is about connecting with who you really are in order to do what you alone were meant to do!”

    Thanks for much to think about. 🙂

    • Steve

      Thanks for the kind words on the quote. I am compiling all of my “Tweetable Quotes” over the next year or so and will release them in a give-away product for my readers toward the end of the year.

  • The name you give to the law is good ” Law of Everything” and it is true attitude shows nature. I have decided what to do in this year and also I will achieve my goals.

  • I love it- The Law of Everything!!! Internal shifts take precedence over the external stuff. Great stuff!!