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Why Do You Do What You Do?

The Long Answer

Think about an area of your life with which you struggle.  Maybe it is finances. Maybe it is relationships.  Maybe it is physical fitness.

All of us have some area of our lives we wish we were better at managing, right?

Why do you do what you do?  Why do you keep taking the same actions that have brought you to the place you are now?

The long answer is that your thoughts create your emotions and beliefs which motivate the action you take.

You do what you do because you of how you feel or believe about it–whether it be money, relationships or your own health.

How to Change It Up?

You can diet all day long and never keep the weight off.

You can read every Dr. Phil book on relationships that you can find, and still not be satisfied with your own.

You can follow every bit of financial advice that Suze Orman ever doled out and still wallow in feelings of lack and insufficiency.

How do you change it up?

Change what you think. Change what you believe. Change what you feel.

Change your life.

Ultimately, the actions you take create the results you get, and your actions are always based on your thoughts and emotions–even if they are unconscious or subconscious.

That is why you do what you do.

The Short Answer

The short answer to the title question is it works for you.

It’s not pretty. You may not want to believe it is true, but dysfunction in  any area of your life works for you in some way or another, or you would change it.

The key then is to uncover how it works or the way in which it works for you.

Once you identify that root, you can make a better choice.

You can then affirm, “This (fill in the blank with your behavior–over eating, over spending, etc.) works for me, but there is a better way. I choose ________________ instead.”

In this way, you root out the old behavior that doesn’t serve you and replace it consciously with a more fruitful behavior.

What do you think?  What area of your life/behavior would you like to change? What behavior/idea would serve you better?  I’d love to hear your thoughts. I know your experience and ideas will help lots of others reading this post.  Share your thoughts below.

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Hi, I'm Steve Rice and my goal is to transform simple philosophical truths into practical fuel to revolutionize your life. It's not about self-help, it's about self-reliance. I show you how. Connect with me on Facebook or follow me on Twitter and let me know how I can help you.

  • Hi Steve,
    This is why I changed my focus and am focused on writing fiction instead of marketing. It wasn’t doing it for me and writing fiction is my passion. It took some big steps toward change, some where pretty scary, but here I am and I wouldn’t go back!
    Stacy

    • Love that, Stacy! I’m SO excited to read your book. I used to be an avid fiction reader as a kid and young adult…then I started reading more business/non-fiction. But I love to regress back into the world of imagination…can’t wait to take that trip into the world you’ve created.

      I know what you mean about changing directions…and your shift has even been greater than mine on TSA Blog. I was scared to change from generic inspiration to more substantive “spiritual” content….but I finally realized that this is what I was meant to do, so I have to pursue it.

      Along the same lines as your project, I decided to venture into the world of screenplay writing. Talk about scared sh*tless! I’ve never written a screenplay, but there’s one in my spirit that keeps haunting me and it’s been at least 2 years, so figure it’s time to put it down on paper. Should be exciting no matter what!

      • Thanks, Steve! I’m glad to have you on the review team! 🙂 I have no doubt that you’ll provide some great feedback! I hope that you enjoy the book.

        It’s definitely scary to make changes and I applaud you for taking the step to write a screenplay! That sounds really exciting! The thing that I’ve noticed is that with each new step it does get a little easier.

        I can’t wait to hear how it goes for you!