Getting Stuck Sucks!
The part I hate most of all is having to go out in the cold and snow. But there’s not really a choice, since it will be like this from about November through March or April.
…And so I brave the elements in order to get to work, do the grocery shopping and carry on with life until the cold weather breaks.
The worst part of all the snow is that it just piles up and there’s no where to put it….and it just keeps falling.
A couple of winters ago, I was running late for a meeting. I went out to my car, started it up and put it in reverse. I stepped on the gas. The engine revved but the car didn’t move.
I gave it a bit more gas and turned the wheel slightly, trying to back out of the parking space into which my car had become ensconced by the snow. Like a bear huddled in a hibernation den for the winter, my car seemed reluctant to move from it’s cozy snow den.
“Dammit,” I muttered under my breath, jamming my foot onto the accelerator.
I knew it was a lost cause, as the tires spun on the ice beneath the car.
I don’t know why we do that…especially those of us who’ve grown up all our lives around winter weather. Why do we continue to spin the tires when we’re stuck? We know it won’t help us gain traction…and will probably actually do the opposite. Still, we persist.
Why You’re Stuck In Life
Life is the same way. You feel trapped in a dead-end job. You know the relationship you’re in has soured, but you can’t bring yourself to walk away. No matter how hard you try, you can’t stay committed to that exercise regiment and diet plan. You feel like pulling your hair out.
We as humans are ingenuity machines. Why, then, are so many of us stuck in life?
I have a theory. You are stuck because when you’re stuck, you don’t have to stretch.
When You’re Stuck, You Don’t Have to Stretch
“Stuck” is Security
What do I mean by “when you’re stuck, you don’t have to stretch”?
For many of us, being stuck is safe. No, it’s not comfortable, but it is safe. It’s known, and most of us fear the unknown more than we fear almost anything else.
Let’s face it. That’s why most of us fear death. Not because of death, per se. But we are afraid of what it will be like to die. We’re afraid of how we will die.
Will it hurt? Will we know what’s going on? What happens the minute after we die? We are terrorized by the unknown.
And so we live life, content to be stuck because then we don’t have to stretch.
You have to walk toward something you’ve never done and ultimately embrace someone you’ve never been (or at least never thought you could be).
The power of shaking it up comes when you choose to stretch yourself–even in the small ways–instead of opting for the convenient stuckness.
So make a habit of stretching. Stretch yourself physically. Stretch yourself mentally. Stretch yourself psychologically and emotionally–and in every other way you can imagine.
Soon, stretching yourself will be your strength and being stuck will be a distant memory because you’ll know that all you have to do when you feel stuck is to stretch!
Photo Credit 1: Alex Proimos
Photo Credit 2: Andrew Whalley