I hate them!
What if I can’t measure up to their expectations?
What if she/he doesn’t like me (the way I dress/talk, etc.)?
What if they don’t think I’m qualified enough?
A Broken Measure
Here’s the deal! The “what if” ruler is a flawed measuring device. With it, we place ourselves up against unrealistic or impractical expectations and units of measure that just don’t matter in the long run.
Why is it so hard to let the “what if’s” go, then?
I don’t know about you, but for me there is this nagging doubt in the back of my mind. There’s the voice that questions my best intentions, ideas and dreams.
There’s a judge waiting–too eagerly–to issue the verdict: “You can’t…” or “You’ll never…”
The truth is, I am. You are. Each of us is.
You are enough.
You can learn a new skill set.
You can switch directions, exercise competence and gain confidence and credibility in a new area.
Your value lies not in what you do, but in who you are. That never changes. You are complete and whole (even if you have not yet realized it). What you create has purpose and meaning in the world.
Your value lies not in what you do, but in who you are
Your being is enough…even if you never do another thing in your life. Once this truth sinks in, you will be content and never need to strive for external acceptance, approval or affirmation again.
(In full disclosure, I’m not quite there yet, but I’m working on it)
So…that’s what I want to ask you to close out this post. What are the expectations you put on yourself (or accept from others) which distract you from the art of being?
What fills your “to do” list but keeps you separated from experiencing the riches of your own presence in this moment, now?