What to Do When You Don’t Fit In

Why am I here?

Puzzle piece with eyes looking out of itRemember your first day at a new school?

Maybe it was grade school.  Maybe in university.  The gut-gnawing uncertainty. People  everywhere, yet you feel so alone.  You just want to go hide somewhere.

Life can feel like that, can’t it?

Why am I here? Why can’t I seem to get my stuff together? Why does everything seem to fall into place for others and never for me?

Frustration is the name of the game

I’ve been there. We all have.

At one point, I even wondered if I had been born into the wrong time and wrong life.  Maybe I was meant for another time and another place. Maybe I just got it wrong this life, I thought.

You didn’t get it wrong.

This is what I realized:

I don’t fit in because I wasn’t meant to. (Tweet This)

The people that seem to have it all together often don’t (and they’re just as scared and insecure as the rest of us).

We often spend our lives trying to “fit in” or “go along to get along”.  We contort ourselves and our circumstances to fit the expectations of others.

But we’re manipulating ourselves into a broken system.

You didn’t come here to fit in…

You came here to stand out. To stand up. Your sole purpose in coming to this earth–this physical life–is to remember that you’re connected.

Don’t waste time trying to plug into a power source that needs recharging. You have access to the ultimate Source. You’ve never become disconnected.  Don’t expend your energy and life time trying to connect to people and things around you in an effort to feel “right.”

Remember your connection to Source, and things will be right in your world.

Earl Nightingale, the author of the self-help classic Lead the Field tells the story of a small boy who was given a project by his father. It was a page of a magazine on which the image of the world was printed.  The father cut the page into various pieces and sent the boy off to tape them back together.

In short order, the boy returned, finished. The picture of the earth was stunningly compiled and the father asked, “How did you do that so quickly, Son?”

“Easy,” he replied. “On the other side of the world is the picture of a person. I just put the person together, and the world came together too.”

This is what I know…

I am here at the perfect time and the perfect placeperfectly equipped to do what I need to do, love who I need to love, and be who I’m meant to be.

I don’t fit in, and that’s okay. In fact, that’s exactly as it should be.

I am loved and supported.

I have done nothing wrong.

I am enough. (Tweet This)

What about you?

Have you felt “out of place” in your own life? What have you learned about life…about yourself? Please share your wisdom in the comments.

Photo Credit: David 

About Steve

Hi, I'm Steve Rice and my goal is to transform simple philosophical truths into practical fuel to revolutionize your life. It's not about self-help, it's about self-reliance. I show you how. Connect with me on Facebook or follow me on Twitter and let me know how I can help you.

  • t bone

    Awesome stuff dude

    • Thanks so much! Appreciate u reading and stopping by to comment.