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“Step right up!” He hawked. It seemed like a good idea at the time, didn’t it?
All the excitement. The crowds, everyone clamoring for a chance to buy some.
“This amazin’ elixir’ll cure everything from baldness to hemorrhoids,” he promised.
How could you not buy in?
The truth is someone has sold you a load of snake oil about why you can’t (or aren’t) living the life you should be living and you need to take that shit back and get a refund!
Sad thing is, you may actually be the one who’s been selling you this baloney. Maybe you bought it at wholesale from someone else, and then you re-sold it to yourself in retail-sized packages.
Either way, it’s time to get rid of it cuz excuses are horsepucky.
Two Types of Excuses
The excuses that you and I buy into every day that keep us from pursuing the life we deserve, can be divided into two categories–excuses of obligation and excuses of lack.
You’ve probably used both but may not have really thought about the difference. Think back to when you were a kid and your mom said, “go clean your room.”
“I can’t,” you replied.
To which she responded, “Why not?”
“I have to do my homework.” Suddenly you were overcome by the obligation of your responsibility to work on your homework. That’s an example of an obligatory excuse.
Imagine instead that you answered, “I don’t have enough time before I have to leave for school.”
That is an example of an excuse based on lack. Both types are bullshit!
What Is An Excuse, Really?
It’s a belief that we hold that allows us to abdicate responsibility for our lives.
As adults we become even more proficient in the use of excuses to avoid taking responsibility for our lives. In fact, we often use responsibility as the excuse.
I have a family.
I have to be responsible.
I have a house payment now.
I have a good job.
Excuses allow you to hide. They allow you to pretend that you are less than you really are. They allow you to fit in and mask the guilt of failing to live up to your potential.
You have everything you need to craft a well-lived life. There is no lack. So when you find yourself saying things like “I don’t have enough time/money/education,” etc., stop yourself.
You are using your belief in “not enough” to destroy your life. You are abdicating responsibility for your life to someone else. And believe me, if you do not live your life, someone else will–your government, your boss, your family.
Creating a well-lived life takes courage. Period.
Those who are truly living their lives are not necessarily smarter than you.
They don’t necessarily have better opportunities.
They are definitely not more worthy or deserving of the life they lead.
They have found the key, though. It lies in the fact that they truly lead their lives. They wake up, take courage, and they live!
You can too. You can decide that you are going to live your life. You can decide that you are done with excuses. You can replace your excuses with new beliefs based on abundance and power instead of weakness and lack.
You can recognize that your world is nurturing and responsive. It lies waiting for you to take up your power and go forward into the world as you were meant to–empowered with confidence and strength.
The choice is up to you.