Sitting Space: Facing the Discomfort of Uncertainty

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The Sitting Space is a feature I’m starting to share what I’m learning from the things that I’m “sitting with” in my life.

So often we run–to alcohol, food, sex–from the feelings of our lives. I have decided to sit with mine.  This feature is an expression of self-generosity that provides a space for me to be present.

Feeling Lost

It was over. No denying that. The door was shut.

All the dreams. All the hopes. All the plans.

All of it, irrelevant now.

I needed to find myself again. I needed to reconnect to Source. I needed to feel what it felt like to be me.

Uncertainty terrifies, but can also serve as a powerful teacher.

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My Friend’s Mom Is Dying…

…Right Now.

“Nothing more we can do,” they say.  An ER nurse for years, the tables turn. They now discharge her to hospice care.

I grieve.  I hurt.

For my friend.  For his family. For the sense of powerlessness that I feel, confronted in his mother’s imminent death by my own sense of mortality.

Hopeless.  Such a devastating and powerful word–this illusion called hopelessness.

You see, it’s not true.  She has deep faith–the kind that’s rooted in the earth of her soul and spreads it’s branches high toward heaven.

redwood topsShe is not hopeless.  In these last hours, she rests against the breast of God, and I imagine she can nearly see God’s face.

Death is not a loss of life, but an expansion of it–true ETERNAL life.
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We grieve for what we are losing. But for her, death is passing through a door.  It’s finally arriving home after a long double-shift in life’s ER and slipping out of her old, cancer-torn scrubs.

I’m Jealous

Of her courage in life.  Of what she can see from there that I can’t.  Of what she now knows that I have yet to learn.

I pray that I find the same courage and grace to live.  

Fearless. Now. Today.


Why You Should Follow Your Dreams

What Is Your Dream?

Dream TeamDreams are amazing things.  Our dreams fill us with enthusiasm.  They draw out the genius within and motivate us, don’t they?

Think of the big dreams in your life.

To write a book?  To be a movie star?  To own your own business? To start a family?

What are you dreams?

Notice how you feel when you think about them even now.

Of course it would be easy for me to say you should follow your dreams for lots of reasons (some listed above).  You’ll feel more fulfilled (maybe).  You’ll accomplish more than you ever thought possible.

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How to Overcome Any Obstacle

I learned one of the most important lessons of my entire life recently.

You can overcome any obstacle if you let go of the story you’re believing about it.

It’s that simple…and that difficult!

The obstacles that stop you only stop you because of some fear you harbor.

A couple of years ago, my partner and I were having a heated discussion about my ambitions of being a speaker and writer.

I was excusing my lack of results and he said, “Maybe you’re afraid of failure…or success.”

Immediately my mind revolted. I’m not afraid, I thought.

I was lying to myself and until I was able to overcome the story, I was shackled by it.

When you throw off the drama of your story, you release the limitations of the story.

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What To Do When You’re Afraid of Taking The Wrong Path

Fear of the Wrong Path

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Devil’s Lake State Park, WI

I don’t know if you’re like me, but it seems like I’ve always had a fear of fucking up.

I am insatiably curious and love to try new experiences.  I have worked with a friend in a new start-up business, run my own massage therapy clinic, worked in healthcare, and (most recently) written a book and launched a speaking career.

My resume looks a little…well, let’s just say it’s a little disheveled!

Despite trying at least 3 different careers before 35, I am still afraid of taking the wrong path. [Read more…]


020: AWAKE! Podcast – The Affirmation That Changed My Life

The 2 Affirmations

In this episode, I share the 2 most powerful affirmations (one negative and one positive) that shaped my life.

I talk briefly about what an affirmation is, why it is so powerful and then share two or three powerful affirmations that I use and that you can implement to shift things in your life.

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Note: This post is part of the 31-post Ultimate Blog Challenge. During the month of July, 2012, I will be posting 31 times. Since this is a lot of posts over a short period of time, I prepared a special page where you can catch any you may have missed.


How to Be Confident (When You’re Shakin’ In Your Boots)!

Courage and 169 Minutes of Terror

Trudging from the theater, my mind was foggy. I was completely disoriented by what I’d just witnessed.

It was like I had been there.

The skies were gray and angry. The seas churned and spat.

The doors fell open. Wave after wave, young men rolled up on the shore, welcomed by the barrage of the machine gun fire.

Some ducked and dodged. Others didn’t have the chance.



June 4, 1944

The opening moments of Saving Private Ryan changed me. It has been 14 years since I saw that footage, but I will never forget it.
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017: AWAKE! Podcast – How to Develop Confidence and Courage

The only way to produce confidence is to be courageous enough to face your fears and step into them.  Taking action, produces results and creates momentum.

Results + Momentum = Confidence

Often we get sidetracked evaluating our options.  Make a decision, take action, then evaluate.  The time to evaluate is after you’ve begun to produce results.

This episode will teach you how to build courage in trusting your intuition. You will learn several ways to identify that you are on the “right track”.

You’ll also learn why it is so essential that you begin to create results in order to build confidence.



Making The Tough Decisions

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You know it’s the right decision to make, but your stomach is tied in knots and you’re afraid to move forward.

Have you ever been here?

What if I’m fucking this up? You wonder.

How do I know this isn’t just my issue and won’t show up again clothed in a set of different circumstances. 

Your mind races with questions. You point to all the reasons that you are making the right decision, yet you still have trouble actually making it.

Is it the right timing?  

Am I doing it in the right way?
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005 AWAKE! Podcast – Be Your Life’s Hero

Our 5th episode!!  If you haven’t subscribed to our podcast, you can do so through iTunes.

In this episode…

“How do I move on after being layed off?  I think this could be the opportunity I’ve been looking for.”

I answer this question from a listener and discuss the difference between courage and valor and how to exercise true courage on a daily basis.

I would also appreciate it if you would go to iTunes and rate and review our show.  This will help people to find it more easily.

You can do so by clicking this link to the show page on iTunes.  Once there, click “View in iTunes” under the Awake! logo. You’ll be taken to iTunes.

Under the heading “Customer Reviews,” click on the link to “write a review”.  I would appreciate it an honest review.