Are You Living Life Like a Fat Man At a Hotdog Eating Contest?

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The Sitting Space is a regular feature in which I share the real-life challenges I’m “sitting” with and the lessons I have learned along the way. I hope it will inspire, enlighten and encourage you.

Do you feel like the second place finisher at the hot dog eating contest?

You shovel it in. You gasp for air. You sweat to the finish. But somehow you never come out on top.

You don’t wanna be that second-place hot dog guy. You make yourself sick–and honestly, we’re all about to hurl with you as we watch.

hotdogs on a plateDid you ever think you may be in the wrong game?

No matter how much you struggle, strive, and sacrifice, it’s never enough.

Fed up yet? [Read more…]


Is What You Want Holding You Back?

Sending Mixed Signals

Red and Green Mixed Traffic SignalsNothing is more frustrating than a night of flirting only to be snubbed at the last dance, just the other day, I realized that I was sending the Universe mixed signals.  

A week ago, we relocated to another city, several states away. My partner received one of those “pack-up-your-life-and-go” job offers, and so I folded my neatly pressed life, stuffed it in a carry-on bag and jetted out the door.

Once I arrived in the new city, anxiety started clawing at my stomach like Gollum clinging to the ring of power.  Life is the best it’s ever been and I’m still riddled with anxiety even though there is no reason for it.  Weird feeling.

So what gives? I asked myself.

What Do You Really Want?

I realized that what you really want (or say you want) may not be consistent with the energy you send out into the world, and that was my problem.

The anxiety was just the symptom.  The stress of starting over and finding a new job consumed me. I knew I needed a new job…or at least I believed that I needed one. But the truth is, I didn’t really know if I wanted a new job.

Do you see the inconsistency?

My assumptions said: I need a new job. My desire said: I want to work as a spiritual teacher.

My belief in my dream didn’t support the reality that I wanted to bring into my experience (that of being a spiritual teacher).  So, I realized that something had to give.

That’s when uncertainty attacked. What should I do?

How to Bring Desire into Alignment

Desires or dreams come easily. You were made to dream. Dreaming is a fundamental part of what makes us human. The challenge lies in bringing desire down from the clouds and grounding it here on earth.

In a recent interview with Oprah on Super Soul Sunday, Author Steven Pressfield said this about desire.

The more important the dream is to your soul’s evolution,
the greater the resistance to it. -Steven Pressfield
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To bring the emotional energy you’re projecting into the world into alignment in a way that allows your dream to manifest you have to do two things.

1. Make sure your emotions are consistent with the desire.
2. Take informed action and allow the results to manifest.

How to Balance Inconsistent Emotions

Emotions fluctuate. How can you balance them with desire? It is easy if you don’t get too specific.  This seems counter intuitive–especially when most “law of attraction” gurus are teaching people to visualize more specifically.

But most of us get way too specific about our desire and how it should unfold, but our emotional output doesn’t yet match the intensity of the vibration of that desire. So we are already starting at a place of misalignment.  Then we get discouraged and think we’re doing something wrong when it doesn’t appear.

Instead, focus on feeling good. Find the ways that you can create and experience the feeling of gratitude and joy and you have positioned yourself already at a higher emotional frequency.

Once you are calibrated to this better-feeling emotion, you can more easily create a vision of what you desire.  A great way to begin to do this is to ask positive ‘what if’ questions.

What if I make the perfect connection in this new city which leads to a fulfilling job that helps me grow on my way to becoming a powerful and successful spiritual teacher?

Do you see how I turned my previous negative assumptions around?  That is the beginning.

What if everything works out?
What if I have all that I need to accomplish my goal?
What if I find that I can trust myself to make the best decision that serves me and all involved?

So don’t despair if you’re having a hard time realizing your dream.  Keep working toward it. It’s all part of your soul’s evolution. You will succeed if you don’t give up.

How to Take Powerful Action

Most of us jump right to taking action.  We’re an action-oriented society.  But Powerful Action means taking action that aligns with your energy and desire. Energy, Desire and Action make up the power triad. When your energy, your goal–or desire, and your action are aligned, you have all you need to create the art of your life.

Clear energy and clear desire leads to clear action. (Tweet This)

If you take the step to elevate your energetic emotional impulse and direct your intention toward a clear desire, you will see the next step in front of you.  Better yet, you will be confident to take the next step.

For me, this meant obtaining the perfect “bridge” job as I continue to build my spiritual teaching practice.  Now that I have greater clarity, this bridge job does not deflate me but it actually serves to motivate me.

If you will follow these simple guidelines, you’ll find that you have moved from simple flirtation with happiness and fulfillment. If you’ll let the creative source of the Universe take the lead, you’ll feel the exhilaration as you zip across life’s dance floor with grace.

What Is Your Plan?

What dream would you like to make headway with? What is the next step you need to take? How will you implement these 2 principles to help you take the next step toward that dream?

Photo Credit: Paola Kizette Cimenti


What to Do When You Don’t Fit In

Why am I here?

Puzzle piece with eyes looking out of itRemember your first day at a new school?

Maybe it was grade school.  Maybe in university.  The gut-gnawing uncertainty. People  everywhere, yet you feel so alone.  You just want to go hide somewhere.

Life can feel like that, can’t it?

Why am I here? Why can’t I seem to get my stuff together? Why does everything seem to fall into place for others and never for me? [Read more…]


A Little Clarity Goes A Long Way

Clarity is Key to Empowerment

All of us want to feel empowered.  There is much talk–most of it bullshit–about stepping into your power, or claiming your power…or reclaiming your power.

What does this mean? It’s become so cliché that it’s really just self-help gibberish! (Please ignore the title of the free giveaway on my newsletter sign-up box in the right hand sidebar of this site…seriously, though, do you see what I mean?)

The modern individual has never been more personally empowered. Yet if this is true, why do so many of us feel so disempowered? [Read more…]


“To Infinity…and Beyond!”

Perspective is Everything

Infinity Room – House on the Rock
Spring Green, WI

Near my house, there is a unique (I use this word very intentionally) site called The House on the Rock.

The house was built into the side of the cliff face by an architect several decades ago.  The house is fascinating, but my favorite room is called the “Infinity Room”.

The sides are constructed of panes of glass.  It stretches out from the rock face hundreds of feet over the forest floor.

The room gets progressively smaller as you walk down the “hallway”  out into ‘infinity’.  The perspective makes it seem as if the room continues forever. [Read more…]