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Riffs and Rants for 2012 and 2013

Year-End Goal Setting – What Do You Think?

For The Win 2012 is coming to an end.

2013 is just around the corner.

Do you do any year-end goal setting before the New Year hits?

Is it effective for you?  How do you manage and follow through on the goals you set?  What keeps you motivated for the long haul?

I have to admit that my experience with New Year’s goal setting has been pretty hit and miss (probably mostly miss!).

There are some things that I know I want to be different in the coming year.  I feel like I can just sit down and chat with you like a close friend.  So if you’ll let me be a bit self-indulgent, I’m just gonna riff about some things I hope for myself–and for you–in the coming year.

My Year-End Riff

My career’s gotta change.  Big time.

CAREER
I’m in my 30’s now and I’m not professionally where I want to be.  What about you?  Is career a point in which you want to make some drastic changes this year?

If so, what tools are you using to help you make those changes?  Do you have any benchmarks set for what you hope to accomplish?

I do know this much, if you don’t know where you’re going, you probably won’t end up there.  I don’t have a specific format (like S.M.A.R.T.) for goal-setting, but you gotta find something that works for you and then you just gotta work it! (That’s the hardest part)

RELATIONSHIP
How is the health of your primary relationship?  Do you want (or need) to make some changes in 2013?

In this area, I’m doing okay because I’ve made it a priority.  I don’t want to shift this priority, but I could do better.  I need to be more intentional and clear in my communication.  Like a car, I just need to buff things out and shine them up a bit–do some fine tuning.

Whether you need a relationship overhaul or just a tune up, I have a couple of tips.

Number one–educate yourself. Find the area you have trouble with–like setting boundaries or communicating clearly–whatever it is, search out good resources and support to help you develop better skills in that area.

Number two–get support.  Most of us–myself included–think we can handle it.  That’s when things start to fall apart and it’s too late to do the minor adjustments that should have been made months (or maybe years) ago.  Somehow, we feel that counseling and professional support in our relationships is only for the people who can’t “get it right.”

Building a healthy relationship is a skill.  If you’ve never done it or you haven’t been trained to do it, you need to set yourself up for success.  Take classes.  Get a good marriage and family therapist.  They will have tools you can to improve your communication.

If you implement them, you will be amazed what can happen in a relatively short amount of time. (Can you tell I’m speaking from experience? Just do what you need to do. It’s so worth it).

Then…you just gotta work it–kinda like the goal-setting plan.  This can be awkward. When we get into relationships, we tend to fall into patterns of behavior.

(Hold on…gotta change the laundry. No, seriously, I’m in the middle of laundry writing this and realized that both machines are silent…brb)

Okay, Facebook is the devil when you’re in the middle of trying to write a blog post!

Back to relationships…we fall into these patterns of behavior–and communication–which then can trap us in comfort and unconsciousness.  Sometimes we know something needs to change, but we just don’t have the energy to do it so we say, “I don’t know what to do.”

You always know. Your soul knows. If you will get still and practice honoring your own integrity and intuition you can create clarity.  Then you will have to summon the courage to take action based on that clarity.

It may be a difficult conversation you know you need to have…or it may just be setting a healthy boundary regarding some disrespect that has snuck into your relationship…but you need to act on what you know.

FINANCES
Because this is so closely related to career, I need some work in this regard as well.  The good thing is that I’ve done my education when it comes to personal finances.

A few years ago, I cut up my credit cards and determined to get out of debt.  Fortunately, I’ve never gone back so I don’t have that hanging over my head.  However, I haven’t put a lot of effort and focus into continuing to build on that great foundation I set by paying off my bills.

I need to create some stability in my income and then take serious action in this area of finances (specifically saving and investing).

What about you? Are you drowning?

Don’t lose hope if you are. I used to have $20+K in consumer credit debt.  I had a car payment and a house payment, etc.  It took me a couple of years to pay it off and sell the house, but it was worth it.  Don’t give up.

If you have already got finances under your belt, what has been your “secret”?  What helped you to gain traction in the area of your finances?  I would love to hear your tips.

And then what plans do you have in this area for the coming year?  Please don’t share personal financial details, but I would love to hear your dreams for 2013.

PHYSICAL
As most of you know, I’ve had some health challenges recently.  About 2 months ago, I came down with an outbreak of the shingles.  I learned a valuable lesson in the importance of self care.  I had been constantly stressing myself, and my immune system took a dive.  I’m still building it back up.

This area can be really overwhelming to a lot of people because many of us realize how delinquent we are in exercise and diet.  I’m not a physical fitness expert.  But I know what doesn’t work for me.

It doesn’t work to hit the gym for an hour or two per day.

It doesn’t work to pull all carbs and refined sugars from my diet suddenly.

Drastic change is hard to sustain–for anyone.

We all are where we are as a result of the incremental choices we make.

So, if you need to work on your physical fitness or health, make a plan. Then work the plan.  Set small steps.

For me, this would be things like.

1. Limit drinks with high fructose corn syrup (like sodas and juices)

2. Drink lots of water–I already do this, just by slowly making it a habit.

3. Order junior or “lunch” portions when I go to a restaurant.

4. Look for a more healthy alternative at a restaurant (I love bacon cheeseburgers…but I don’t have to have one every time I go out)

Once you take these baby steps and they are habits, then you can ramp it up to cut out all soda, etc.  Whatever you decide is good for you.

Follow your gut. Do what feels good and makes you feel good (physically, mentally and emotionally), but take it in baby steps.

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Looking Ahead

At the beginning, I mentioned that career is going to be a major focus of my energy in 2013.

When I started 2012, my motto was to craft a well-lived life…and to help you do the same.

I have refined that and clarified that intention.  Here is my new goal.

To create a life and career that sustains me and enriches others

Of course, I have to work hard to really flesh this out and describe what it means first in my own life so that I can make it relevant in the lives of others.

True Spiritual Awakening

This site won’t change–at least the mission of it won’t.  I may do upgrades or cosmetic face lifts to improve the user experience.

I love to connect with you through the site. I love to teach–it’s what I’m meant to do.  I will continue to share my wisdom.

I do want to improve the way in which I do this.

I want to create information that is more and more useful.  I want to share insights that really help you get a handle on your own life issues.  In short I really want to help you live a kick-ass life.

Behind the Scenes

As part of this process, I want to begin to share some “behind the scenes” type posts.

I want to share lessons I’ve learned, but I want to do it by taking you along for the ride–so you can see the lesson as it plays out in my life–and then you can apply it to yours more effectively.

For example, I’m thinking about doing a series of posts on the book-writing process.  One of my friends recently had a successful book launch.  But I’ve done it the wrong way.

I know not everyone is a writer or wants to write a book, but a lot of you do–or have at least thought of it.  Admit it!

I’d love to share what I learned and what I’ll do differently the next time.

What I Know

All of us know more than we think we do.  I’m reading the Millionaire Messanger by Brendon Burchard right now and one of the exercises the author has you do is list things you know about a variety of topics.  I was really kinda shocked at how much I knew.

It struck me that some of my unique expertise would be helpful to others. So, I would like to take some of those ideas and create some reports and e-books to provide here on the site.

A Final Thought for 2012

I know this post has been long (now nearly 1500 words).  If you’ve stuck with me, thanks.

Recently I saw Danielle LaPorte post this brief note on her Facebook page.

Be the Global You!

Be the Global You!

Over the past day or so, I’ve been a bit obsessed with this thought: Be The Global You.

This is my wish for you in the coming year–that you would find that thing that is uniquely you and you would treasure, cherish and celebrate it in every area of your life.  And if you have found your “thing,”  you would realize what a special gift that is and share your experience, knowledge and love with those around you.

So many of us are still searching, testing and experimenting and we all need a little encouragement that we’re on the right track.

(Here’s a hint: You are on the right track–life is the track!)

Would really appreciate your insights, disagreements, rants and riffs for 2012 or 2013.  Please comment below.  Then do me a favor and share this post.

Photo Credit: John Carleton 

About Steve

Hi, I'm Steve Rice and my goal is to transform simple philosophical truths into practical fuel to revolutionize your life. It's not about self-help, it's about self-reliance. I show you how. Connect with me on Facebook or follow me on Twitter and let me know how I can help you.

  • I’m here to encourage you:) Cheers! Kaarina

    • Hi Kaarina! I’m so grateful to have great supporters like you in my corner. Thanks for jumping right in and posting the first comment on this article.

      I’ve been giving the things we discussed a lot of thought. Some major adjustments may be coming down the pike for me personally in a couple of weeks, so I’m excited and –to be honest– a tad anxious. Whatever happens, I know that it is for the best and I am more committed to my success and happiness than I think I’ve ever been.

      Hope you had a wonderful holiday week/weekend with your loved ones. Wish you so much happiness for 2013!

  • Hello my Friend!

    I can’t believe that another year is coming by. I still remember when
    we first met at Karmic Kappuccino; those where the times I was just starting to
    explore blogging.

    Ever since then “To create a life and career that sustains me (you) and enriches others” has been your goal so, I can testify about your consistency.

    As for me,one of my 2013 resolutions is going to be visiting your site a little bit more
    frequently. I am also finishing my first book which I plan to self publish in
    January. I am not sure I can follow our mutual friend’s path for marketing –
    she really put her to work there – but I will be doing some promo which I think
    might work.

    Best of wishes for you and your dear ones for this 2013.

    • Hola amigo mio…te he extrañado muchísimo. Thanks for stopping by this post and commenting. Appreciate you. Hope you had una navidad llena de felicidad y paz.

      I’m so grateful we did meet at the Karmic Blog. Great things are just around the bend here as I’m committing myself to making an even greater impact in 2013.

      Okay…you finished your first book!?!?!? CONGRATS! That’s SO exciting. I know what a big endeavor that is. Please let me know when it’s available so I can get a copy.

      Would love to know what types of promotion you have planned for your book. What is your objective. Keep me posted. Would love to brainstorm with you if you would like.

      Wishing you all the best for 2013 as well.

  • Hey Steve,

    You’ve really packed this one with some great pointers, bro!

    But this one right here moved me, “To create a life and career that sustains me and enriches others.”

    You’re so right on point here man. It’s so important we define our intentions. They give us a preview of what needs to take place in our lives, in order for whatever it is to happen.

    I’ve gotten a lot better at making my intentions known, but I there is still much room for improvements.

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts, intentions, riffs, and rants with us. 🙂 Great reading them. 🙂

    • Hi D. Been out of reach — literally…without cell or wifi service for a few days.

      Thanks for stopping by.

      Glad my personal mission statement for 2013 touched you. Looking forward to writing more about this in the coming days/weeks.

      Do you have a personal mission statement or vision for 2013? Have you clarified it yet? Would love to hear it if you don’t mind sharing it.

      Would also like to know more about what you meant by making your intentions known. Do you mean sharing with others…or just clarifying them for yourself?

  • Aw Steve! I didn’t know you had shingles – yikes! You’re all better now?

    This is quite a riff! You’ve done the good thinking. Now to implement the plans…

    I’ve done some thinking too, trying to firm up my thoughts/goals for 2013. I’ll be blogging about them early in January, but let me share this right now. I know it’s all possible.

    Did you read Melody’s post of today? This is how I see manifesting now too. I’ll be working – wait – “working” – along those lines!

    Happy New Year Steve, all the best in health, finances, relationships and in becoming the global you!
    Lori

    • I developed shingles first part of November. I am much better. Still a little nerve pain and weakness down my arm, but it’s getting better all the time. I’m grateful for my health. This was definitely a reminder that self-care is vital to a balanced life.

      You’re right about the implementation, Lori! That’s often the hardest part–or the follow through–at least for me. I’m still in the process of solidifying things and crystallizing them in my mind. I find that once I get really clear about something, it’s much easier to follow through and complete it–whether it’s a project or developing a new habit.

      I haven’t gotten over to Melody’s today, but thank you for directing me there. I’m jumping over there right now to check it out.

      Thanks for all the kind well-wishes. I wish peace, joy, love and all the above for you as well.

      Thanks again for stopping by, my friend!

  • Honestly, Steve. This post was TOO good. Every couple of paragraphs, I wanted to stop reading and start planning a more successful 2013. I can tell you’ve invested some time into distilling your 2013 goals into a single phrase and that is powerful. Really loving this blog right now. You have a habit of hitting the precise chord that resonates with my challenges and goals. I’m SO excited to work with you this year and fulfill both of our purposes in the process. Keep it coming!

    • Thanks so much, Garrett! Excited to see what you have planned for 2013 and I’m so glad to connect through the blog here. I’m grateful that it inspires and encourages you as well.

      I think sometimes hitting the right “chord” is because I’m overcoming my own obstacles and facing my own challenges so what I teach is what I’ve learned…so it’s more “real”. What do you think?

      I’m also looking forward to working with you soon to see how I can help you achieve your goals. Happy New Year, my friend!