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Ask a Better Question, Get a Better Answer

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Personal performance expert Tony Robbins is known around the world for his ability to help people create motion  in their lives.

One of the most powerful insights I learned from him is expressed in this quote.

“Quality questions create a quality life.
Successful people ask better questions,
and as a result, they get better answers.”

I’ve used this as a guide in my own life. I constantly look at the impact of the questions I ask (or don’t ask), knowingly or unwittingly.

The problem I sometimes struggle with is uncovering the unconscious question that is creating havoc with the results I’m getting in life.

Questions like…

When are things going to fall apart? (assuming they will)

Why can’t I get it together?

What’s wrong with me?

The list could go on and on.  I’m sure that you could fill your own list with the unconscious, and often, debilitating questions that you ask which have a direct impact upon the expectations you have of life…and therefore, the results you get from life.

A Different Question

Often, when I’m searching for the question that is creating the block in my life, I’m asking, “What is the question that’s holding me back?”

Do you see the frustration underlying this question?  Here’s a better one to ask.

How Do I Feel About the Question I’m Asking?

When you focus on how a question feels–even if you don’t know exactly what that question is–you can begin to direct the power of it.

It is not necessary to know the question holding you back. You can follow your feeling as a guide.  If you search for a higher, better feeling, you will automatically be asking a better question.

The implied question becomes, “What would I need to ask in order to feel better?”

If you would focus on that desire to feel better, then the experience will follow. Tweet This

A Practical Application

I go on “gratitude walks.” These are just a simple 15-30 minute walk through my neighborhood.  There’s nothing magical or mystical about the walk.  My only objective, aside from moving my body, is to feel grateful.

I start out with deep breaths and just focus on feeling grateful in my body.  I don’t even necessarily focus on what I’m grateful for.  I’m entirely focused on feeling good–the feeling of gratitude is one of the most powerful and addictive feelings of well-being that I’ve uncovered.

The funny thing is that as I focus on feeling more grateful, I recognize even more things that allow me to feel grateful. Soon, I’m feeling grateful for nearly everything and I can hardly keep up with expressing gratitude for each one. In that moment, I become gratitude.

Try it for yourself. Look at the feelings you’re experiencing every day. What is creating those feelings?  Instead of focusing on the what so much, focus on the how–how do you feel?  How do you want to feel? Begin to choose a better feeling, and your thoughts and emotions will follow your body.

Then life really starts to get exciting because once you shift internally, the external must align. Tweet This

About Steve

Hi, I'm Steve Rice and my goal is to transform simple philosophical truths into practical fuel to revolutionize your life. It's not about self-help, it's about self-reliance. I show you how. Connect with me on Facebook or follow me on Twitter and let me know how I can help you.