“I would be happy to,” you agree, while internally you are banging your head on the table shouting, “No! No! No, you idiot. Why did you ever agree to do that!?!”
“Tsk-Tsk,” your Conscience disapproves, while your Better Self “harumphs,” peering from slanted eyelids over it’s upraised nose.
Regret. You fail to trust your gut instinct. We have all been there, haven’t we?
Missed Opportunities. Bad Decisions.
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Everybody has regrets, but I want you to learn to trust your gut in a way that will serve you well your whole life, and the first step is practice!
1. Practice Makes Perfect
Whether it’s to pass on the extra serving of double chocolate cheesecake or to grab a few minutes of meditation before starting a crazy day, pay attention the next time your instinct nudges you.
Practice with the little things. When your gut taps you on the shoulder, obey it! These promptings are often spontaneous and unexpected and so it is easy to ignore them. Don’t.
By honoring your soul’s guidance and listening to your own wisdom, you’ll become more comfortable obeying the promptings that are sent your way. A side benefit is that you will notice more and more guidance appearing before you when you start obeying the guidance that’s already there. (Tweetable Tidbit)
The second step in learning to trust your gut is to learn to honor and respect yourself first.
2. R-E-S-P-E-C-T…Find Out What It Means to Me!
Respect yourself. That’s what it comes down to.
You have probably learned or been taught to doubt yourself. You have been told that your opinion or perspective isn’t as important as the expectations of others. Maybe it’s your parents, church leaders, or friends that you don’t want to disappoint.
Confidence comes when you realize that you can
survive the disappointment of others.
Be willing to disappoint the expectations of others in favor of respecting and honoring your own inner guidance.
Years ago, I ran a professional massage therapy practice. I had just finished my schooling and was working to establish myself and my practice in the community.
One day, a chiropractor called my office looking for a massage therapist to provide on-site chair massage for a community event in which his practice was participating.
“My rate for onsite services is $40/hour with a minimum of 2 hours,” I told him.
“Humph,” he scoffed, “Well I’m paying $10/hour and you can hand out business cards too.”
“I’m sorry,” I told him. “I would recommend calling the massage school in midtown. I know they send out their students to get experience as part of their program.”
“Well, if you are in the place where you can just turn away business…” he derided.
The truth is that I wasn’t in a place to turn away business, but something in my gut told me not to sell myself short.
“It’s not that I can turn away business, Doctor,” I told him, “but I believe in the value of the work that I do and I want others to value it as well.”
Respect. That’s what it is all about. It’s about honoring the guidance that lies within you enough to disappoint those who seek to impose their point of view and priorities on you.
Practicing and developing this skill strengthens your own confidence and will free you to pursue the things that are most important to you.
3 Agreements You Should Embrace as You Learn to Trust Your Gut
1. I know what is best for me (Tweetable Tidbit)
2. I am competent in my own life. (Tweetable Tidbit)
3. I will figure it out. (Tweetable Tidbit)
Embrace these three agreements–or beliefs. They will strengthen your faith in your intuition as you put them into practice in your every day life.
Your Assignment…Should You Choose to Accept
(Said in the best Mission Impossible voice I could muster)
Okay, in the comments, tell me how you plan to trust your gut more. How have you learned to trust your inner guidance better? What is one agreement or action step you will take to build a stronger self-confidence when it comes to trusting intuition?