Why Wanting to Change the World Isn’t Enough
When I first started out building a presence online, I was full of ideas about how I wanted to change the world. I really wanted to have an impact. I wanted to show people how to live and how to transform their lives.
The interview itself is about his new book and about entrepreneurs and–specifically–“start-up” entrepreneurs, but something Chris said really resonated with me.
I’m paraphrasing, but he basically said that it’s not enough to be successful, you have to be useful.
This seems like common sense, but it isn’t.
Breaking the “I” Pattern
Do you see the flaw of my thinking when I first started out?
All of my ambitions seemed to be driven by altruism, but if you look closely, it was really all about me!
I want to show people how to live…but what if they don’t necessarily need to be shown how to live?
I wanted to help people transform their lives…but what if all they want to do is learn to be more happy with the life they have?
Because I was so focused on how I wanted to help them, I missed the boat!
I was trying to give to others what I most needed and wanted myself instead of focusing on what they truly wanted.
How to Be Useful
If you focus on giving what you most want and need to yourself first, then you will always have clarity about how you can best help and serve others.
In short, you will be useful by meeting others at the point of their need, not yours!
What do you think?
How are you most useful to others in the world? How are others most useful to you? What resources (books, websites, people, organizations) are most helpful? Why?
I would love to hear your insight and get a good discussion going here on the subject of usefulness.