Are You Constipated? (You Should Probably Read This Before You Answer That!)

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T. M. I. (I know…but hang in there)

A few days ago, I suffered through some horrible food poisoning and a terrible bout of constipation.

What?  We’ve all been there.

Let me explain what this little TMI moment has to do with anything.

Life Constipation

Did you know your life can get constipated? Just like your body, life constipation can be painful, debilitating and will keep you from moving forward.

So, what do I mean by “life constipation”?

Well, there’s an old maxim: Sh*t, or get off the pot”

Sh*t, or get off the pot! 

It’s crude, but we all get it, right?

Life constipation happens when fears and doubts paralyze us and we are unable to gain momentum.  Mostly, it is a result of fearing to take action for some reason or another.

A couple of months ago, my friend Steve invited me to join a program he was running at his site, Ending the Grind.  He called it the “Year of the Grind” and in it, he challenged his readers to face 12 areas of improvement in their personal lives over the course of 2012.

I agreed to join Steve and three other entrepreneurs and allow him to post my goals in each area.  This month, February, was meant to be the month we focus on business/career goals.

My Dilemma

You see, I was already taking a risk by posting my goals publicly at Steve’s place.  However, I still felt pretty safe because I would only be exposed to his readers, and I wouldn’t necessarily have to share that info on my blog.

Then, everything changed.

Unfortunately, Steve had to step aside from the project in order to focus on some shifting priorities in his own life. That is where I faced a dilemma.  What would I do about the goals I had set?

My Decision

This is where the life constipation comes in. I realized that my “pot” had gotten far to comfortable.  It was time to do my business, or get off the pot!

So, I have decided to post my original goals which I had sent to Steve for his site, here on True Spiritual Awakening.  This site is about growing and crafting a well-lived life, so once or twice a month I’m going to try to share my goals/progress in this regard.

What’s It To Me, Steve?

This is your chance to cheer me on, join in and challenge yourself and set your own goals, or just sit by and look for opportunities to say, “told ya so!”

Ironically, that’s the way most of us live our lives anyway–taking action, watching others take action, or criticizing those who are taking action.  What’s your decision?

Are you taking action, watching others take action or criticizing the action they take? 

My Goals (For The Spectators)

  • Build a $100,000 public speaking/coaching/consulting business. I plan to do this by building a large, vibrant platform from which to provide products and services to my target audience…which brings me to the next goal.
  • Expand my platform to reach 100,000 people through 1) a vibrant 10,000 subscriber e-mail list 2) powerful weekly podcast 3) popular video content.  (I’ll do this all through the “home base” of my blog by creating and implementing an aggressive guest posting schedule/calendar and networking with other podcasters/bloggers and content creators in my niche)
  • Learn the effective product launch process.  I plan to study this process and begin implementing it in small ways in order to learn the techniques and tools which are most effective and beneficial for my audience.

Now, Over to the Peanut Gallery…

Would love to hear your thoughts, pro or con on this list of goals.  They are fluid and I will be working to keep focused on them in the coming months.  I’ll try to post a summary post at the end of the month to let you know how I’ve done with them.

Sh*t, Already!

Now it is your turn. It is all up to you. It doesn’t really matter what my goals are or if I reach them.

What are you gonna do?!?

About Steve

Hi, I'm Steve Rice and my goal is to transform simple philosophical truths into practical fuel to revolutionize your life. It's not about self-help, it's about self-reliance. I show you how. Connect with me on Facebook or follow me on Twitter and let me know how I can help you.

  • Congratulations on sharing your goals!

    Your short-term goals are very similar to my long-term goals, and I must admit that I, too, have fear around sharing the specifics of those goals publicly.

    What I choose to remember is that my goals are simply a guide, and can be adjusted as my situation changes. Also, I have not succeeded or failed simply on the basis of achieving my goals- instead it is my attitude and action every day that determine my success.

    When it comes to not wanting to share my goals, the truth is it is fear that holds me back. When I realize that FEAR is just an emotion, not an outcome, I am free to make positive progress.


    • Thanks for the kind encouragement, Chrysta. Sharing them is really the easy part. I’ll rely on you and my other readers to keep me accountable to them!

      Your advice to remember that these goals are a guide is a really awesome piece of advice. Also love the reminder about fear being an emotion. That’s a great practical tip that can help us to overcome it each day. It is simply a feeling that we can choose to act in spite of.

  • Great going Steve!

    To be very honest, I was just about wondering what the post would contain, after I read the title 🙂

    But I am glad that you are getting focused on achieving your goals with the help of Steve in some way or the other. I guess all of us do have that power or potential within us, though some are really able to recognize it or it needs to be tapped by another person before we are really able to value and realize it. I am happy that you have chalked out your goals and aim to get through them 🙂

    My goals are comparatively smaller I must admit, I guess I know clearly what I can achieve in the present state I am in, and it would take me sometime to really aim a little higher. Guess, being a freelance writer as well as a mother of two- I do have other priorities as well presently. I did make my wish list and resolutions at the beginning of this year, and am working on achieving those presently, taking one at a time.

    Wishing you all the very best in your future endeavors 🙂

    • Steve

      I wondered about using that title, it is a bit crude, but is a true analogy of what happens when our lives seem to stagnate.

      Thanks for the encouragement with my goals. I set them big on purpose so they would require me to “stretch” beyond my comfort zone. I don’t think that it is necessarily important the size of the goals you set. It is about being able to focus and follow through that counts. The person who can focus consistently will be much more effective than the person who cannot.

      I think your method of taking “one at a time” is essential! Thanks for your kind thoughts. I appreciate you.

  • Hey Steve,

    I must have to be honest here buddy… when I read the title and the first couple of sentences I was seriously afraid of where this post was headed. 😀

    But you certainly had a plan and you executed it quite nicely.

    A Huge CONGRATS to you on not letting the opportunity of sharing your goals to fizzle out. You used your dilemma as an opportunity; I think that’s what “taking action” and “tackling our goals” is all about. When life throws us distractions, we pick up the slack and make good out of it; and choosing to do our best no matter what happens.

    That’s very inspiring to see.

    I really loved this line, “Ironically, that’s the way most of us live our lives anyway–taking action, watching others take action, or criticizing those who are taking action.” It’s so very true!

    My goal are pretty short term at the moment. I simply want to finish both of the books I’m working on at the moment. I have a eBook that I’m working on and my first novel. The novel has truly been a nightmare, but I am optimistic that by the time I am finished with it, it’ll all fall right in line. 🙂

    Thanks for sharing this with us. I really appreciate the honesty in this post.

    • Steve


      You’re not the first one to say that! LOL Harleena had some concerns too. My main point was to get people’s attention. Guess I did, but not sure if I’ll use that analogy again! (Although it made me laugh…says something about my sense of humor, huh?)

      Hang on to your goals. They’re good ones…and I know what the writing process is like the first time. Can’t even believe you’re tackling 2 books at once! I keep saying that I’m going to write a novel, but have not yet done it. Would love to chat about your experience doing that sometime.

      Have a great day!

  • thanks for sharing your goals with us Steve.And congratulation on completing your goals

  • Monica@Terani Couture

    There came a time when I experienced life constipation. Very painful and it’s hard to move forward. But I realized that I have to move on, and I did the right decision. It’s about being positive and strong. Cheer up!