5 Things They Say You Should Resist

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They Say You Should Resist…




…Your Own Mortality


What If ‘They’ Are Wrong?!?


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  • Hi Steve
    The instability spoke to me because there have been many times in my life where people may have considered the way I was living to be steeped in instability and irresponsibility. Society in general has very strong views on what is the proper, responsible way to live. Had I played it safe and abided by those arbitrary rules, I would have missed out on a lot of awesome experiences and my life in general would have taken a very different path. Actually, thinking about it, the uncertainty one spoke to me as well….many of my choices came with a great deal of uncertainty and while I found it uncomfortable at times, it was worth it to me. Really living an authentic life true to who you are and your desires requires you to get comfortable with being uncomfortable because you are constantly gong to come up against things that may not make you feel so great in the moment. The end result is worth it though! I would rather deal with the uncertainty — as great as it is at times — that comes with living the way I want to live than to live an easier, more predictable life that I will be certain to hate!

    • Steve

      Isn’t that interesting, Kelli? I’ve experienced the same concerns from those around me. Once, my mom said, “Steve, you need to find yourself and settle down.”

      I know what she was trying to say. She was concerned for my welfare. But I told her, “Mom, I’m never going to have a ‘normal’ life like everyone else has.”

      I want a different experience. I want to live well. I want more!

      I just finished writing a post on courage for another website. As soon as it is published, I’ll post on FB and twitter. I think you’ll be able to relate, so keep an eye out for it.

      Brava! One of my guiding principles is from Tony Robbins (I think) where he says that the quality of your life will be in direct proportion to the amount of instability you can live comfortably with. You hit the nail on the head.

      Do you remember making a conscious decision to stomach the instability? How did you learn to live with it? Would love to hear some of the good results you’ve gotten from choosing the “less-traveled” path.

      • Oooh, you know I’m loving that you told Moms you don’t want a ‘normal’ life right?! I wish more people wanted different experiences other than the so-called norm.

        However, I think for our parents’ generation, they don’t know that they should want different. They have lived this long doing what they’ve always thought socially and morally right so why do something different now. My mom is that way and she just shakes her head at me sometimes when we talk about stuff ‘normal’ people LOL 🙂

        Kelli, I too have gotten some awesome results from doing uncomfortable things that kept me uncertain for awhile.


        • Steve

          It’s funny that you picked that up, Kesha. That conversation was several years ago, and it’s funny because now she and I have talked and she sees me as more adventurous and “successful” but that’s not always how I see myself.

          I do agree that part of it is really a matter of generational perspective. Since the transition to the Industrial Age, everyone was programmed to fit the machine. Don’t stand out…or if you do, only in reference to the larger mechanism (company) and how you can better advance the business.

          There is a “return” happening, IMHO. More and more people are saying, “That’s not enough. That’s not what I want my life to look like.”

          Think about how hard it is for those of us who are forward thinkers to muster the courage to step out. Imagine how terrifying it must be to others still stuck in that mindset.

          Kesha, you alluded to embracing uncertainty for a short time to achieve results of success. What are some examples of that (if you’re comfortable sharing)? What was the biggest lesson you learned form uncertainty?

          • But of course…I don’t mind sharing…one in particular is starting the Uncommon Chick blog. A little background – I’ve always known that I wouldn’t retire from Corporate America. One main reason is because by the time I get 65 or so, the retirement age will be 80 and I’m definitely not working that long! LOL

            So throughout my life, I’ve been one of those serial marketers/entrepreneurs trying all types of businesses even though those close to me told me it wouldn’t work or that I should just focus on my “good job”…which is “good” since it pays most of the bills and allows me the flexibility to try other things 🙂

            So when blogging came along a few years ago, I was highly interested! But the idea of “putting myself out there” for the world to see was very frightening and I was uncertain how people would perceive me personally, especially those who know me. Needless to say when I said “awhile”, it meant 2 years! 2 years of fear and uncertainty. I did start the business blog based on website design etc. but the personal blog was the one that I feared for so long. I could have been a big time blogger by now if I hadn’t had such a long period of uncertainty/fear! But it’s all good because I understand synchronicity and the people/connections I’ve made with this blog so far have been tremendous and in only a few short months, I’ve grown faster than I thought I ever would! So I’m happy and have learned my lesson BIG time LOL


            • Steve

              Haha…I love your perspective on retirement. My partner said, “I wanna retire in the next 10 or 15 years” (that would be about age 50-55)…I’m totally up for that.

              OMG…your story sounds so like my own…”serial entrepreneurs”. I once told Mom that I was gonna buy her a house within the next 5 years (when my MLM biz skyrocketed.)

              It didn’t. And I didn’t. I think she’s still expectin that house, though!

              That’s so reassuring. Cuz I’m heading into my 2nd year of blogging and I”m just now getting “real” on the blog. I’m learning to share real emotions, insights and perspective as opposed to those which I think other people want me to share. It’s a real challenge, and I totally understand and can relate to your experience there.

              What is your hope for your blog? Do you want to turn it into a business? What is the “big picture” for UC blog?

              • Oh I have so many goals for the blog! I want to build an Uncommon Community, create info products, do affiliate marketing, have full time writers at some point, be the magazine blog to go to for all things related to living life by design and uncommonly, and create joint ventures with like minded others…I also have my eyes set on more speaking engagements 😉

                • Steve

                  Awesome! You have a really clear picture of your future with the brand. I’m developing that for myself. But I’m right with you on the speaking engagements. It’s what I love most to do! Maybe we’ll get to “joint venture” some of that shit! LOL…look at me bein all potty-mouthed. I’m really quite professional when I speak in front of a group. O:)

                  I’ll look forward to connecting with you next week. Would be good to bounce ideas around as we go down this road. Yay…super excited.

      • I have always found the term ”settle down” interesting as it seems to imply this general idea that at some point you need to stop exploring, stop doing things and settle into an existence that will no longer change of fluctuate — you have your spouse, your children and the job you will work for the next 30 years.

        The opposition from the parents is the hardest to deal with I think. I do not think any of us have a level of confidence that makes us 110 percent sure of every belief and decision we make. Validation can be nice, but we cannot rely on it…I actually just wrote a post on that!

        I do not remember a certain point where I decided I would stomach all the junk that can arise, but I know after my father died, I really, really got serious about honoring what I wanted and after that point, there was a major shift in everything…I really ramped up my personal development work and major changes ensued. I guess that point may be the point because even though I had been on my path before this event, things really seemed to move more quickly after this point and I was more determined to just do what I wanted, regardless.

        • Steve

          Good point. Never wanna settle for anything. I’m heading over to read your post now. Just saw the title and was like, “I need to read that for sure!”

          It’s strange how a traumatic experience (like losing a loved one) often precedes the evaluation of what’s really important. Glad you were able to turn such a difficult situation into a catalyst to fuel your growth.

  • Thought-provoking… I believe we should just embrace life and the make the most of it. We cannot control everything, so just live the best we can!

    • Steve

      THanks for stopping by, Jon. It’s amazing how little we really do have control of! If we just recognized and acknowledged this fact, it would probably make life a lot easier! 🙂

  • Hey Steve,

    You should already know by now that I’m a lover of questioning “authority”. 😀 That sound so bad, didn’t it? :)) I’m totally a rebel, I guess.

    I am a seeker of my own truths. I hate conformity, and fight it like it’s an opponent on battleship. I hate that I held on to the old truths that were on loan to me for as long as I did. But you’re absolutely right… what makes anyone really know the “right” way to do things.

    We all are here to live the best we know how, nothing more or less. Each of the things you listed come with living; fighting against them would be like pushing the air we breath away. It just wouldn’t work out for us very well.

    However, I believe when we find our own place in this world; we become masters of living our lives on our own terms. And that’s really the best way to go about it anyways, huh? 🙂

    • Steve

      You rebel! I think we all are to an extent.

      Resistance is such a tricky thing. We’re programmed from a child to resist everything. So it made me just wonder, “what if…” we chose not to?

  • Yes. You probably should resist uncertainty because it’ll make your life really complicated.

  • Monica@Mori Lee Dresses

    Yes, these maybe wrong. For me, these things will bound to happen, no matter how we try to stop it. These are the things that you cannot resist.